I NEED A BAD BOY THAT LOVES THE LORD

"He may look like a player, may even be a player... but he loves the Lord naw."

Have you ever read any column for ‘searching singles’ anywhere where they put their details and a description of prospective partner? Here’s an imaginary one.

Name: Veena Priya         Age: 24                 Gender: Female              

“I’m beautiful and wonderful and I want a bad boy who loves the Lord”

Not so regular right? The most common one used is, “he should be ‘God-fearing’”. For their mind dem don talk quotable quotes.” Their perception of God fearing may not be at all. Have I burst someone’s bubble?

This post brought some comments (especially first comment) that provoked me to write this one. It’s about something that a Christian lady like me has either not paid attention to or decided to allow, thinking it won’t do much harm, if it does any at all.

Yes! You can say that again ‘Girls are not logical’. Though I don’t totally agree with you, but I think its part of our wiring.

When we observe scenarios of the bad boy getting the good girl and we’re all wondering what goes on when a girl doesn’t want to end up with the kind of guy we think suits her. Maybe she thinks the good guy would be boring and she would like adventure though she wouldn’t voice it out or may that's my thought that slipped *Oops!.

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We are talking about Christians and church committed girls who don’t mind anything else as long as he claims to be Christian, comes or goes to church. Desperate for a miracle marriage.Preferring to go with the guy who is a Christian but his life values are far from the truth of God’s word, maybe because he’s generally accepted in the 'church' environment, he’s eye candy, all the girls are kinda after him or he's just a picture of what the media has painted in our minds as Mr Right.

You can say I’m choosy but being a Christian is NOT enough for me to go into a relationship with you. You can blame on something called biological clock right?

So who is this ‘Bad boy who loves the Lord’? Contrary to what you should believe about me as a blogger, I’m not great at expressing myself, it comes with the temperament. I just write because I know a little English. So I’d rather have people more engrossed and expressive about this topic explain what this post title is talking about.

Whether you think it is weird or not I do have a list of what I want in my future partner and the first thing on that list is the relationship he has with God.

My list was as a result of being provoked not to settle for less or compromise standards and the person who provoked it doesn’t even know he did. He’s my friend from my first year in the University. The first and the last time he ever dropped me in front of my hostel in his car. Immediately I got to my bed, reached for my diary, filled it and also pasted stick-ons in it where I wrote a list of things I wanted in my future partner as a promise not to settle for less or compromise standards. 

After the little discussion in his car I resolved to the fact that I can really have a ‘son of God’ for my future partner.

I do care that I may be talking at some people right now, but would still love to know what you think. Don’t forget to leave your comments, let’s see things from your own side right?

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