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Wednesday 2 May 2012

Turn The Lights on,Let's Talk about Sex.

Up late because I'm browsing, being nocturnal comes easy. At a point I turn on the online radio and tune to a local radio that I had always loved from childhood, the one that gives me nostalgia the most. And you know it's late in the night and the programs airing have to do with matters of the heart kind of thingy, relationships and all the things involved. So the radio presenter is discussing about differentiating sex and love making. I was glad when she said that what she was saying was meant to be practiced in the confines of marriage, thank God! Some radio personality somewhere is promoting proper lovemaking in the right context. So people have been calling in and they've all been men. And I've been wondering if there would be any female caller on this program. Listening to the view of some of them, it's quite clear that men are quite difficult to redeem (Forgive me). They have reduced love making to sex and almost nothing can convince them that it should be only in the confines of a marital union. This takes me back to remember one of my friends whom I was gisting with (and you know how gist is now), when he said it I just didn't know what to do. Not verbatim but he said "Sex is like a physical exercise that should be done at least once a week...How would I not have sex in a week?!" Is this how this beautiful gift from God has been reduced? Please are we hiding from the fact that majority of people, even in the church, don't believe that sex is not meant for the unmarried. Are we hiding from talking about our stand on sex more openly? And making assumptions that they should know the truth? Yaay! I think I hear the husky voice of the first female caller who had woken from her sleep probably because of the show, but she doesn't even recall what she wants to say *scoffs* As I was saying...It also reminds me of having a few friends over and one of them (a guy) throws a question which one would we all prefer, to have our kids before marriage or to get married, wait a while before having kids? My answer would have been 'Are you considering the first at all? But the other guy just did me a favour by giving a quick answer about marriage being honourable with the bed undefiled. Perfect answer? You can say that again. More men have been calling in and been saying the truth that is to be told and I'm glad. But I'd like to ask why? Why lovemaking has been made reduced to nothing but another activity to subdue the other partner? Are we putting the issues about the act in and out of marriage under proper examination light? Are married couples open enough about the challenges they face in lovemaking in order to build their marriages? What's your take on this? Oh! A woman is calling, but her call is changing the direction of this program, it's a serious issue she's facing right now. I'm done here. Don't forget to leave your comments. I'm off to sleep.

8 comments:

ochinedu said...

You ladies just love making a general swipe at guys ... like all ladies are perfect. yeah right!!

The truth is that they are great guys out there but most ladies like to hang out with the guys who are good at playing games ... they like the game but not the consequences.

Some guys do go through the pain of ignoring quantity for quality ... n it can be offensive when they r bundled with players.

Anonymous said...

nice one dear

Unknown said...

Nice post.. I'm glad i actually read it. To answer your question, i do not think married Christians are open enough about the topic and i hope that changes soon...

Mjady said...

Yes!They like the game but not the consequences. That's a truth I think we should be more aware of. We know there are great guys out there, but we really want them to stand out by being bold about it. Yeah, girls aren't perfect at all. Thanks Ochinedu nice one.

Mjady said...

Thanks Dear

Mjady said...

Thanks so much. What way can we encourage couples to be more open about their sexual issues to people who can render help? Cause i get it's quite difficult for them

ochinedu said...

I think saying that you want a guy to be a "true Christian" and yet you want him to "stand out and be bold" in today's world is clearly an oxymoron. It's all about standards ma'am, we have a standard which we must follow and can't compromise. If a girl can't tell a good guy from the rest, then I don't think she deserves him. Same goes for the guys too.

Mjady said...

Now I'm covering my eyes with one hand. You have a strong point and I would admit it hit me hard, but I dint mean compromise of standards at all. I'm glad I've come across a mind like yours. Thanks