How To Get Into a Romantic Relationship (3)

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Have you sworn off men or women? Hope you are not changing your sexual orientation because you think heartbreak is associated with gender sha. How many times has your heart been broken? Or are you like me forming badt guy .My heart can never be broken. You want to find out why or how? See

HOW TO GET INTO A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP (2)

Mehn! I have to get into a romantic relationship, not friend zone how do I catch this fish? 

In the quest of finding love in companionship and satisfying the need for affiliation by first going out, stop being a hermit and being friendly, what happens in the process? I’d give you a scenario.

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...IN THE MAKING (4)

She had advised him to keep the baseball cap on if he did not want to feel the pressure of being a celebrity. About two hours had passed after the game they enjoyed at the viewing centre, but he was not done enjoying the company of this mysterious chic he just met today. He suggested they go to a

...IN THE MAKING (3)

He still had the face cap on, she had advised him to put it on if he really wanted to enjoy watching football on the street.  The match was over and even the analysis, he signalled that they should leave; she took a cue and stood from her seat. Walking towards the car with John Smith behind her, she felt a bit awkward. He didn’t get her door, so she settled in the passenger’s side as fast as she could immediately he got the doors unlocked like it was going to ease her somehow.

“So…” He broke the silence “I guess you…where are you headed now?”

Her brows furrowed. I don’t know, I came out here because of you

How To Get In A Relationship (1)

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With the rise in the number of my contemporaries getting married and having families. Everyone is beginning to pressure knowingly and unknowingly about romantic relationship or getting married. Are you kidding me?!  Have I gotten the Phd? Abeg! Anyways, this isn’t about me. Some friend

I NEED A BAD BOY THAT LOVES THE LORD

"He may look like a player, may even be a player... but he loves the Lord naw."

Have you ever read any column for ‘searching singles’ anywhere where they put their details and a description of prospective partner? Here’s an imaginary one.

REALITY CHECK #9 - LOVE FOR CHRISTMAS

It's December 1st and it feels odd to post this *covers face*

The only Nigerian Christmas ‘love song’ I’ve ever heard is one that taunts me. I don’t like songs that make me envious of the person singing or the person in the song. Well that particular song is ‘All I Want for Christmas’ and I was just looking for a Nigerian Christmas song o, not necessarily a love song, when I stumbled upon it.  I liked everything about it, but the message started taunting me a lot ‘A lover for Christmas’. Then I’d start hoping I’d get a lover for a Christmas gift and be anxious that yet another Christmas has come without a lover. Arrggh! Just the thought sef .

Yes! It’s so good loving somebody and that somebody loves you back. But when there’s no physical special somebody in the category that you can love, loving you and you loving back nko? You can’t kill yourself na. What do you do?

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A romantic relationship in whatever level is usually over hyped. I mean, I’m married; does that make me a certified responsible citizen? Check the news. Relationship or marital status doesn’t mean a person does not remain who they are good or bad. We tend to think people who have attained active relationship status as peaceful, beautiful, loving, innocent, responsible, rich, et cetera. We just attribute good traits to them and the opposite traits to those who are not. STOP PREJUDICE! And check the news again.

So what do you do when there’s no special person to love you or for you to love? Obey God’s law. Love the lord your God with all your heart, mind, strength, and love your neighbour as yourself. It's straight forward enough.

The next post I may do on romantic relationships may be reasons why I’m not in one.

Watch this space!

5 Areas You Need To Be Compatible With That Prospective Lover.

Sometimes when I say love is not enough in marriage, people think it strange. But there are lot of issues that can affect love relationships and the so called 'LOVE' won't stand a chance. When love is doing you gish gish,  it may not be so easy, but you have to try and  shine your eye weh weh, so you won't wake up one morning shocked at yourself for getting married to the wrong person.

I believe the best time to do a lot of talking is before you get into a romantic relationship, I guess you started out with the "Let's be friends" line majorly because you want this to be real, and you wish it would last forever in marriage. It sure helps you to get things straight and study (Without sentiments) the degree to which both of you may be compatible. Chatting for a few hours and jumping to the conclusion that "We have a connection" and "It feels like we have known each other for like forever" is an appearance, those are just feelings and believe me feelings are not reliable.

5 Areas You Should Be Surely Compatible

1. Religious or Spiritual Beliefs: You have to be sure both of you share the same beliefs or you are okay with what the person believes and don't mind raising kids with them. If you think this would pose a future family issue you better think again.
2. Finances: You certainly don't love the person because of money yes, but do you think you are okay with the person's financial habits. How seriously does the person take the issue of his/her financial future? And not because of what he/she has but because of who he/she is, is the person a financial asset or liability?
3. Sex: Yes! What do you want sexually before and after marriage? Does it tally with what the other person wants? So even if the relationship doesn't lead to marriage in the end you are not left feeling violated in this aspect.
4. Having Kids: Oh yes! This has proved love wrong in a lot of marriages and turned them sour. Don't just assume this partner in question already agrees with whatever you have in mind. How many do you want? When do you want? Do you even want? What happens if kids don't come when you expect or how you expect? Please people, talk about these things!
5. Achievements: Before one man marries you and your law degree ends up in the kitchen, discuss your goals. Is the prospect comfortable with how far you desire to go in life? What are the prospect's aspirations? Are you comfortable with them?

So I have a question for you. 

Jack meets Jane who no man would pass by without giving a second look. He approaches her, and they get acquainted quite easily as friends, he desires a romantic relationship with her, but during their many discussions he discovers she doesn't like children at all and does want to have any around in the future, while he wants children running around in his future home. He also perceives her as a vain spendthrift, but they have great chemistry going on like he has never felt with anyone else. If you were Jack what would you do?