How To Get In A Relationship (1)

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With the rise in the number of my contemporaries getting married and having families. Everyone is beginning to pressure knowingly and unknowingly about romantic relationship or getting married. Are you kidding me?!  Have I gotten the Phd? Abeg! Anyways, this isn’t about me. Some friend
somewhere confided in me about similar perceived pressures and is not even in a romantic relationship. So I thought to do a ‘How to get into a romantic relationship’ series dedicating it to those who desire to be in one but aren’t yet.

The first thing or rule is being friendly. To gain a friend is to be a friend. How? Go out. If you keep staying indoors online and offline how do you intend to meet this person? The person may most likely not come meet you in your house that would be an exception to the rule if it occurred in this manner. Social network really matters in this matter. I mean the people you know and the people they know, a lot of advantage lies in interacting with people. Someone said your network equals your net worth. Go out, to that seminar, luncheon, award ceremony, burial, wedding, church program, book launch, volunteer program, the mall, or pub whichever you can create time for. Well don’t go there looking at every guy or girl as a potential mate, just be part to make yourself feel better and happy, have fun, find business or job opportunities, increase your network, and your net worth.

Please don’t go out and be antisocial or asocial. It is not one bit attractive. The aim of going out is to be friendly. You may be shy, but please summon courage and smile, be approachable. You can be out with a friend if that would make you more relaxed and comfortable. But make sure you have the timeouts too for you to be alone and approachable for some few minutes. Whatever you do, don’t be hermits.

This proffers an opportunity to see you in a more objective light. We are helplessly social beings; we love to interact with our kind. Find your kind and interact. They give you a more objective view of your self-image. You begin to perceive what others perceive of you. It also helps healing the pain brought by loneliness. I’m trying to think about the disadvantages of going out, increasing your network of friends. Do you know of any?