In the quest of finding love in companionship and satisfying
the need for affiliation by first going out, stop being a hermit and being
friendly, what happens in the process? I’d give you a scenario.
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So I’m finally at the mall, at the movies precisely and this
really cute guy takes a seat beside which would be the only one beside me
because I took the seat by the edge and I’m with no friends as usual (Habits
die hard or what?). This cute guy is acting really nice to me, offers me his
popcorn, leans over to make comments about the movie, practically flirting with
interest, his ‘A’ game is on and he wants my number. Oh my, what do I do? I’m
responding because I’m trying to be friendly right? But at this point it becomes really tempting for me to do anything to probably
gain this friend and create an opportunity to get this romantic relationship,
so I try to be who I think he may be looking for. You can notice this most in
the way I’m conversing with an accent trying to locate its bearing on the map. It’s allowed naw, at least we do the initial
‘forming’ stage, then when we are in the relationship proper maybe marriage I
can now be myself because I’m sure he’s going nowhere.
Apart from the foneh (Forced
foreign English accent), what are the other tactics we use at first sight of
the eye candy opposite sex we want to attract? Why do we pretend to be who we
are not with someone we find attractive at first sight? Is it okay to form for
that prospective or new boyfriend or girlfriend at the beginning of the
relationship to prove you are worth being with, that you are sophisticated and
good or to keep them attracted to you?
2 comments:
it was really interesting but in the other way wrong, so many people never think the same with with you
Thanks Emmanuel, but what I don't get what you are saying.
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