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Tuesday 16 August 2011

To trust and to hold

"I can't believe those words just dropped out of her mouth!"
"What does she take me for?!"
"This is someone I should be able to rely on and talk to, she does not even  trust me nor knows what I'm capable of. It's sad."

Sometimes we get dashed by the people we've been a little bit or very vulnerable with and had our courage thrown right back into our faces. We feel betrayed, less secure, sold to the enemy, bitter and disappointed.

Trust is not easily gained but it is easily lost. Trust is innate yet learned. Trust is an interactive trait, it has a two way direction.

I wish I could tell you why I'm talking bout trust, but I know to gain trust is a joyful priviledge, while to give trust is a risk. Life is being made beautiful and our experiences meaningful by the mixture of the bitter and sweet.

And what convinces us that we are worthy of our trusts ourselves?

We betray ourselves, sell ourselves to our detriment, do things we would not normally do and give our trusts to other people not worthy. Most times we are not any better than the ones who betray us.

May not really know the drive for this, but I think some points to brood on about trust have been laid. I'm not leading anyone to a particular perspective or philosophy of trust, I'm just expressing the thoughts flowing through my head now. I draw the curtains with this;

We may not have control over the trust we give,
But we do have a responsibility to guard the trust we do receive.