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Tuesday 17 December 2013

REALITY CHECK #25 - THE SYMBIOTIC MARRIAGE

“A lazy person is as bad as someone who destroys things” The Bible says so in Proverbs 18:9. I want to discuss this in the context of marriage. A life partnership meant to be signed for life, what percentages are you looking at?

Fast rewind to Biology class in either SS1 or SS2, do you recall Symbiosis? Yes, an INTERDEPENT living of organisms of different species and there are three types commensalism, parasitism, and mutualism. Once again let’s use this in the context of a marriage relationship. We can define marriage as the INTERDEPENCE of two persons (of opposite sexes) and their lives backed by their decision and the society’s recognition for them to do so.

Parasitism would be an interdependence that causes harm to one and fully benefits the other. This is a harmful kind of marriage. One gives all and loses all while the other receives all and gains all. Can you already feel the pain in that?

Commensalism would be an interdependence that may fully benefit one and cause NO HARM to the other. One partner may give and give, but doesn’t really lose anything as the things given do not take anything from the giver. The receiver gains benefits that could also gotten by the self. In this case, their lives have no much difference apart, they are no better together, they can achieve what their being together offers even while alone.

Mutualism is an interdependence that brings about mutual benefits. The two persons are better off together, there is much gain in their togetherness, and they survive conditions of extremity and danger to their existence better when together. They are worse off apart or separated.

A lazy person is as bad as someone who destroys things. This is just to point those who have been unfair to their partners to rethink and decide to do right. In my opinion commensalism is the gateway to parasitism. Every marriage should aim mutualism or what do you think?
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