Having A Bad Day? Try This.

I tried my hands on something today, I resumed at work today and about thirty minutes after, one of my bosses said something that was not a good report of my performance so far at this new job. I knew this report wasn’t going to positively influence my performance today and I didn’t want that to happen. So what did I do?

At first I tried fighting the emotions I was beginning to have on the low side, I looked for mantras to put me back on track, then tried commanding my thoughts to go the positive direction but it just seemed like everything I did to divert my thoughts to the positive was just aggravating its present state.

Then it began ringing that I should try listening to music. I was wise not to start with fast music or something in the high. Instead, I started with the state I was in and music that would heal that state was a solemn, reflective but not depressive music. It identified with the state of my mind and eased out the tension. I really understand that soothing effect of music now.

Since there was a time of great mental receptiveness (called a psychological moment), this was an opportunity to take my mind to the desired state. The next thing I did was to switch to the kind of music that would make me really smile. It works every time and it worked this time again.

So here’s a link to the video, I think you should take a look and tell me if you smiled at any part of the song.

PS: I’m not a Buddhist and I’m not psychic.

Personal Biases - MTN Project Fame

It was just Marvelous and Ayo left holding hands, seeing their tensed faces and imagining what would be going on in their heads prior the announcement of the winner was exciting. So dear Ayo won and I'm one of the bloggers blogging about it.

This is the first event I'm blogging about and due to logistic reasons I get to post this three after the event. I'm going in the spirit of 'better late than never'. I'm going to be reporting the show with biases that I'd express 'simple and short'.

#1- I wanted Adetoun to be the ultimate winner, but I'm glad she didn't. Being the winner is not always everything and may not pay for everyone. For instance Timi and Omawunmi of West African Idols.

#2- I wanted Musulyn to win too. She was strong, going through adaptation and challenged by unfamiliar grounds, she exhibited positive change. And I wanted a non-Nigerian to win for once.

#3- I suggest that better innovative delegation should be employed by the MTN Project Fame West Africa. All participating countries should be equally represented, let them have a share of winning. MTNPFWA is not only for Nigeria.

#4- I was really wondering why Praise Adejo (Praiz), a quality product from MTNPFWA debut season (the same season that produced Iyanya who made a hit after almost 5 years) was not invited to perform at either the penultimate performance called 'Collaboration Night' or at the Grand Finale.

#5- I'm glad Ayo won anyway, he has the Afrobeat flavor and was the only one ladies were waiting for to marry them after the reality show ends (Reference to the last Google Plus hangout they had). There's just something about him that makes the ladies want to take him home to daddy.

That's my piece


Your biases are welcome, post them in the comment box. Thanks

I Set Sail

All my life I’ve been taught to guard my life from living so I don’t get hurt. I’ve learnt this from my physical, religious, psychological and social environs. But what can you do to stop life from happening except die. I’ve been hurt in all these aspects I’ve been taught to be careful and out of over zealousness gotten myself confused and ended up not learning the right things instead or not even learning a thing at all.

Hurt, pain, loss, are also things that make the world go round and make us say that ‘Life is beautiful’. Beautiful to me means the good, the bad, and the ugly. Beautiful is not just perfect. That is left for the new incorruptible body and life we would have when we see Jesus, when we get to heaven, where they would be no sorrow, fear, or tear. In this life God doesn’t promise me no tears and no fears. He promises me a life of unquestionable victory over them because he’s on my side, with me, has won the battle I should ever fight, and gives me the right to BASK IN HIS GLORY with confidence hereby making me more than a conqueror. Isaiah 43 (the whole chapter)

So I resolve to living. Putting up guard and fortifying walls didn’t stop those who taught me (to do same) from being hurt themselves. In fact they got hurt and more hurt because they found it hard to let go and found false solace in refortifying their walls. Their theories of security have failed them. I do not guard my heart from breaking; I’ve put it in God’s hands.

So I resolve to live and let live. I’m going to be childlike without being childish. I’m going to be free and without a care in the world. I’m going to throw caution to the wind. I’m going to relish every moment God gives me the opportunity to. I’m going to cherish everyone God blesses me with to love. I’m going to let go of people and things that have served their time. And I’m going to learn life as it comes taking a step at a time like a baby learning to walk. I’m not going to jump because ‘Life is a process’ and jumping through it would mean falling. I’m going to walk on a rope if I have to. I’m THROWING all my eggs into one basket. I’m going to trust God on this one. Proverbs 3:5-8. I lose my life and myself. John 12:25-26 I’m not afraid anymore.

Love. Learn. Live

If I set sail, I know God would send the wind.

A Phone Conversation...

I got a call from one of my dear friends yesterday, network providers are more  liberal these days and have been giving freebies that we have thought could only happen in some dreams, but there we were conversing on the benefit of free call credit in plenty. 

We are friends who keep in touch so it was not catching up on old times, we talked extensively till we began talking about our dreams, goals and the fears we had. What we expected to have happened and the milestones we hope to reach in the nearest future and it seemed like it’s not happening any soon. How we try to make things work and they just don’t, and so on.

Then it was one of those moments of saying what I didn’t cram, copy, or rehearse to say, but it’s making a lot of sense to the listener and in fact dissolving fears and doubt. What are such moments called? :-?

Some people have the absolute ideology that ‘life is deliberate’ and some that ‘life is predestined’. Which one do you hold? And why? Then I tell you what I told my friend.

I believe both, because all our live events can’t be attributed to just one of these ideologies. I live life in preparation and in predestination. I’m going to live in the moment and live in tomorrow. So when the opportunities come I grab them because I’m prepared to. When it does not come I’d still live.

Contrary to humanistic propositions we can’t always control what happens to us. We do have choices, but not everything in our lives would answer to them. So what happens when we are being deliberate about life and walking every walk by faith and our answers are not anywhere around the corner?

So when it seems like you were so sure by now that God would have reached down and wiped your tears away, stepped in saved the day and it’s not looking like it. Then you can’t even hear his voice through the thunder, do something, praise him in the storm and ask for his mercies that are new every morning to prevail.

Making You Happy

It's been a while I posted something here and I'm still thinking I don't really know what to write but this is my blog and I can write when and what I feel like. If you don't like it, go and get your own. Just joking, :) I'm smiling ear to ear sure there are no haters here, bobos. Thanks for coming here after a while anyway, at least you're still faithful to the blog. God would bless your ministry. I hope you said 'Amen'.

Today, I just thought about days when things aren't so sweet and if you're like me, receiving no inspiration to be creative. What do you do to survive? Yeah! I mean it SURVIVE, cause some situations are threatening your existence, adaptation and being productive in whatever area you are facing this threat.

It's not like I'm feeling low today, I'm just wondering about days when things aren't so great and you're beginning to doubt somethings you've said to you about you, maybe in front of the mirror.
What do you do to help the situation on a bad day?
How do you get yourself happy again?

PS: I'm going to be addressing an important topic after this and your comments would help so much in making it possible. Thanks for dropping your thots in the comment box. ;)

today's number (2)

I didn’t plan to write a sequel to the prequel of this post, but I think I like to use the same title for the post so I’m game.

I wrote the prequel as my birthday post last year and it was my birthday yesterday :(. Did I just hear you say “huh?!” cause that smiley is sad and you are seeing correctly? My sister doesn’t think that’s cool too.

Yes! I’m not excited about this particular birthday cause since the very beginning of this year, the new age I’d be had been ringing in my head like I had already turned the age, I’ve felt like an agbaya with nothing to show for my age ever since and everyday has felt like a negative countdown to the D-day.

Don’t worry my musing today is not so melancholic, it’s just more introspective than last year’s so I might need some light cause it’s getting dark in here.

Oh! Here’s the light. It is Psalm 90. To my surprise the writer is Moses, funny I never knew that detail till I read it last Friday and was sure this was going to feature on my birthday post. I think he wrote on his 80^th birthdayJ. It comes in MSG version. Enjoy!

Psa 90:1  A prayer of Moses, man of God. God, it seems you've been our home forever;

Psa 90:2  long before the mountains were born, Long before you brought earth itself to birth, from "once upon a time" to "kingdom come"--you are God.

Psa 90:3  So don't return us to mud, saying, "Back to where you came from!"

Psa 90:4  Patience! You've got all the time in the world--whether a thousand years or a day, it's all the same to you.

Psa 90:5  Are we no more to you than a wispy dream, no more than a blade of grass

Psa 90:6  That springs up gloriously with the rising sun and is cut down without a second thought?

Psa 90:7  Your anger is far and away too much for us; we're at the end of our rope.

Psa 90:8  You keep track of all our sins; every misdeed since we were children is entered in your books.

Psa 90:9  All we can remember is that frown on your face. Is that all we're ever going to get?

Psa 90:10  We live for seventy years or so (with luck we might make it to eighty), And what do we have to show for it? Trouble. Toil and trouble and a marker in the graveyard.

Psa 90:11  Who can make sense of such rage, such anger against the very ones who fear you?

Psa 90:12  Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well!

Psa 90:13  Come back, GOD--how long do we have to wait?-- and treat your servants with kindness for a change.

Psa 90:14  Surprise us with love at daybreak; then we'll skip and dance all the day long.

Psa 90:15  Make up for the bad times with some good times; we've seen enough evil to last a lifetime.

Psa 90:16  Let your servants see what you're best at-- the ways you rule and bless your children.

Psa 90:17  And let the loveliness of our Lord, our God, rest on us, confirming the work that we do. Oh, yes. Affirm the work that we do!

I guess you want to post your wishes now. Feel free to do so in the comment box. XOXO

NOTICE TO READERS OF THIS BLOG

PLEASE POST YOUR COMMENTS

Okay! So I have not written anything to post over a week now, but there's just something that has been bothering me about this blog.

It is that the readers of this blog have neglected the part where they post their comments. Yes I'm talking about YOU reading right now. I spend time putting my thoughts together and asking for yours (in return) on whatever topic it is and the response I get is NOTHING. I thought the name of this blog 'thots-to-share' would give that away.

Abeg, your comments do give me the assurance that you are really reading what I write, I learn from you, and get to improve on my views about those topics and my writing skills. It also encourages me to keep doing more. Please don't wash down my enthusiasm. This is coming straight from my heart.

Or am I doing something wrong or not well enough?

You could tell me why you don't post comments about the blog posts on this blog.

I would really appreciate it. Thanks

Today's Thot To Share

1Co 15:10 But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.

The place of vision, hard work, persistence, perseverance, consistency, basking in grace by giving you a break, and taking the challenge to be the best you are enabled to be by God’s grace cannot be over emphasized. It is found in every success story, but I still wonder that in proportion to the Earth’s population, those who have outstanding results from these values are few. But I’m undaunted as I run MY race that I'm possible and unstoppable.

1Co 15:58  Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. 

This is my thot to share today. What's yours?

In Pursuit of Financial Freedom

I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but I desire to place one in the mouths of my children and not struggle at keeping it there. My desire would not be gotten by financial security (By getting married to a knight in SHINY ARMOUR, you know what I mean. ;)) but by financial freedom.

Because I also love to have a GREAT life (which entails a lot), I do want to get financial freedom at an early age. So watch out for me, I’m a billionaire in the making.

What is financial freedom? Financial freedom is when the sum of your passive income is WAY greater than the sum of your expenses. I hope I’ve not started with the jargons? Just in case you don’t understand that definition, I would define income as money coming in and expense as money going out. I hope that’s simple enough.

I would further explain as I have learnt that we may not all have income in common but what we all have in common is expense, whether or not we earn, we do spend money. Income can come in two ways as explained by Robert Kiyosaki as Active income and Passive income. Active income is anything that involves your time, energy, money and presence to bring the money in. While Passive income is anything that does not require the active involvement of your time, energy or life to bring the money in (That means the money keeps coming in even after death).

Expenses also are in two ways, Budgeted expenses and unbudgeted expenses. Budgeted expense is the money you plan or are looking forward to spend on something in particular, while an unbudgeted expense is just the opposite.

 You can have both incomes, just one, which is absolutely going to be active income, or none. But you would always and without fail have both budgeted and unbudgeted expenses (I think it is inevitable). I believe you have to go through or make active income, before you make passive income.

So I want to have the sum of my passive income to be WAY greater than all of my expenses. Great! My pursuit of financial freedom is not synonymous to a get rich quick scheme or mentality or a rat race. I desire to learn, know, grow patiently and be rightly guided unto financial freedom by standing on the shoulder of giants and riding on the wings of eagles. So help me God.

Taking a snapshot of my current financial status, I look like a total mess. I’m not even on square one I’m on square zero. But the journey to financial freedom starts with the honest snapshot of my current financial situation. In fact, I’m embarrassed by what it looks like at my AGE and SHOE SIZE (Marital Status not yet included).

Azzin… look at Dr. Farrah Gray, who fooled me that I had to be done with schooling, then get a job, than maybe I could start making money after?! Finding out his story really got me inspired and feeling like I had wasted my youth. But I’m bracing up and giving my dreams a long shot, deciding to be a relentless builder of a financial dynasty that would be worthy of note.

I hope you find this interesting and of help to you. Your thoughts about this write up are most welcome in the comments box. Thanks for sharing this post as I believe you would and for dropping your comments as I believe you are going to right NOW. ;)

OMG! I Dint Just Forget Our Anniversary!

"Oh My God! Adeyinka are you that bad at remembering dates?!"

I just realized that today marks a year I started this blog and had my first post. Too late to compose a good write up for today, so I thought I'd just show what my first post was like. I would like to add that you do post your comments after, to let me know YOU have been here, I would really appreciate it, thanks for reading my blog and don't forget to come back here. God bless you. Click on the link to read my first blog

An introduction to me.