Actions Speak Louder Than Intentions.

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We were preparing Sunday lunch, and I'm still trying to recall how the discussion started. 

Ok! Triple A stepped into the kitchen wanting something to snack on before lunch was ready, he asked if the cereal was for our nephew who was around with his mum.

Mobbie said it was for everyone.

Triple A thought out loud that it was adult food that the baby would still grow to eat.

Mjady said if it was for our nephew, it won't be bad for him to eat it, that he would just be eating ounje omo (I don't know how to translate that to English in two words)

Triple A replied that it was okay for a child to eat the food for adults but not the other way round, and the same thing with clothes.

Mobbie and Mjady argued with Triple A playfully, that it's just ounje omo, as a parent you would j'ounje omo, especially as a mother, what if the baby doesn't finish the food? You wouldn't throw it away now, and there's no big deal in it afterall.

Triple A retorted that we were wombiliki, wobia. Then he opened the door of the refrigerator, picked up the half drunk up Caprisonne he saw and sipped, then asked to whom it belonged.

Mobbie replied that he was taking ounje omo , we laughed at him.

Then he said "You see that's how life is o, people don't see your intentions, they only see your actions."

WERD!! (Pun intended)

When you stand for something and you've bragged about your standing, you may fall into traps that make your actions contradict your intentions.

Let he who stands take heed...

Making Your 2013 Resolutions Work.

HAPPY NEW YEAR! HAPPY 2013!

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At the start of each year, we perceive new beginnings, we give ourselves new opportunities to be better at one thing or the other. So we set goals called 'New Year Resolutions'

You may have set new year resolutions in the past and not seen yourself accomplish them, so you have given up on the 'resolution' thing. But hey, if you aim at nothing you would hit it every time.

So here is a simple way of setting goals and achieving them.

Be aware of your thoughts and eliminate negative thoughts by not paying attention to them e.g Don't think I would not be sick, think I am healthy.

Write your goals as a list of things that you want, instead of a set things you MUST do. Adding necessity introduces pressure and fear. After all goals are a finish in sight we would love to see.

Don't shortchange yourself, dare, take risks, go out of your comfort zone with what you want.

Don't be afraid to plunge in and take opportunities in achieving these goals, in the process you would learn from your successes and failures.

Cultivate the habit of gratefulness, see every goal as accomplished and give thanks to God everyday for them.

Try these method faithfully and you would be happy with the results you get.

This year I want to be unsensationally sensational. Watch me as I get there.

Mjady.

Celebrate By Reaching Out To Others.

Her husband died last year and her daughter this year. Anna was not sure of how the year was going to end for her, because she has three more children to stay alive for.

Surviving everyday has been nothing but God's grace, living from hand to mouth from the petty sales of snacks and drinks to auto mechanics. Anna's business can hardly grow bigger than what it is because of her overwhelming responsibilities.

Truthfully, it saddens me to hear that reservations for an entertainment event cost a fortune that could be the answer someone else's life problems. We go ahead everyday living like, 'since situations like Anna's do not affect us directly, they are not our business'.

Circumstances like Anna's may not be our problem but we can be their solution. We could be an arm of comfort for someone whose child within has been threatened by life's storms.

Am I a sadist who says people should not invest in entertaining themselves? No.

Six couples paid Anna's family a visit and provided her with food stuff and her children with schooling materials that they need. They spend almost half a day with her family sharing material and immaterial things. Afterwards they head for the beach to have more fun.

Anna is truly grateful some aspects of her burdens have been lifted by people who decided to be an outstretched part of God's hands.

Celebration is what we should do everyday for one reason or the other, but we are not to be oblivious of the sufferings of those we pass by everyday wherever we may find them.

Reach out this season of celebration, put more than a smile on a family's face, make someone keep their hope alive and grateful that you exist.

I hope you take a cue.

5 Ways To Win Your Private Battles

"You will not have a glory without a story, no victory without a fight. The surest ingredient for expansion is adversity. Until you are tested, you can't be trusted. Trials bring triumphs and giants are signposts to Canaan. No Goliath, no king David!"

 

This is a quote from someone's post on a social media platform and it just spoke to me so much that I wanted to share my thots on it.

 Before public victories are won private victories have to be won first. There are territories in your life that you have to take over before you can confidently fight to win and be an attested conqueror. 

There are certain territories you have to win privately, they are:

1. The territory of external influence: Coming to place where you are in control of what force and giving access to forces that influence you in one way or the other.

2. The territory of perspective: This is the way you see yourself, others, what you desire and situations that bind you and these things in one way or the other.

3. The territory of fear: I guess you have heard that courage is not the absence of fear. It is the dwelling on our fears that brings what we fear to reality.

4. The territory of thought creation: This is a lot of work but it is expedient for the winning of any battles at all, because battles start from the center of our thoughts. That's why winning the territory of external influence is important too. Thoughts create what you see and the truth is you can control your thoughts to aid your journey.

5. The territory of persistence and perseverance: This is continual action in other words, this is not easy but all these territories are intertwined and have to work together.

Tests and examinations come before certificates. Read the quote above again.

These are thotstoshare as I live learn and love.

TURN THE LIGHTS ON: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX

Do you think something that is addictive is a problem?

The assumption in today's world is that sex is just another biological drive that must be gratified, and everything is beginning to center around sex.

I would like to know, has anyone ever died from not having his sexual urges satisfied?

It's either condom use or masturbation that is encouraged for those who can't abstain. A good stand on abstinence is avoided like a plague in anything that is supposed to influence people's lifestyles as in everything like fashion, electronic and paper media.

Everything is centered around sexual gratification and perversion is more convincingly seen as nature

Not because I'm confused or not sure about my stand on this, in fact it's very far from that.

I just want to know, if man is so weak that devices have to be created to always cushion the weakness.

Must everything center on human sexual gratification?

TGIF! : 3 Places To Be This Weekend.

This would be a fast one. I asked for suggestions on what to do last Friday and didn't get one response, well I can not vex and decide no to talk to you again. So, here are a few suggestions of how you can unwind this weekend.

1. The eXperience : The annual gospel music concert that holds every first Friday in December at TBS, Lagos, started in 2007, showcasing both local and international gospel acts and an opportunity for citizens to intercede for this country. It's happening today. It is an 'all night' music concert that hosts the largest crowd for a show of its kind with no gate fee required. So get prepared to, go early so as to save a good seat, deal with the crowd, go with a survival kit and be security conscious too. It's always an event to remember, it's always an experience.

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2. Go Christmas shopping at 'Lost In Lagos Live' : This is the best part and I'm starting with it. A lunch buffet will be available for those who get hungry after all their shopping!
Date: Saturday 8th December 2012 – Sunday 9th December 2012

Time: 12 noon – 7 pm (on both days)

Venue: Federal Palace Hotel, Ahmadu Bello Way, Victoria Island, Lagos.

Tickets: FREE!

You should check here for more details.

3. Daystar Christian Centre Christmas Carol by 5 PM on Sunday 9th December 2012, the theme is 'Rejoice', the venue is Plot A3c Ikosi Road, Oregun Lagos, and its free. This is a carol concert you would not like to miss, don't be told. It's the best ever.

I hope you engage yourself with good stuff and have fun this weekend, not just on the owambe side.

Catch ya leyrra,

Mjady

Aluta Against NEPA! : Should We Keep Silent

I knew I would not be able to cook anything at home since there was no water, so I branched to the nearest canteen on my way home from the office. I also left the office with the thought of how to get water to have my bath tomorrow morning, at the back of my mind.

What happened?!

It should be about two months or over now, when my sister said she received an SMS from the electricity service provider that there would be erratic power supply for some days for the reason they stated in the text message. So for once, we started believing that maybe this could actually mean a transformation in the operations and the service rendered by NEPA , the accustomed name for electric power authority in Nigeria though its name has been changed to 'power holding' instead.

They sent an SMS the last time right? Now I'm wondering if that won't be the only SMS notification we ever get from NEPA , because this time 'they' just took the light like 'they' normally would at any time of the day and since then electricity was not returned for six days straight.

Because our 'better pass your neighbor' generator can't carry the pumping machine and even kept developing fault, we could not pump water too. When we were done managing what was left in the water tank, meruwa (Northerners who fetch and sell water in Jerry cans) became a very pleasant face to see, became king in place of the customers patronizing them and made one to think of starting the business too (That's a joke).

Almighty OAU! Who does aluta like no other, I know this kind of rubbish would never be condoned on OAU Ile-Ife campus. Even with a memo about the situation. Anything that causes students all around hostels to have to search for water for more than two days or have erratic power supply for about that time is taunting them for a protest. Before you know it, you are hearing the bugle for you to join the 'struggle' with explanations in thick political vocabulary.


If electrical power did not return by this evening it would have been a week NEPA took our electricity without explanation. But no, God saved them 'they' returned our light last night.

Like the same thing that happens in OAU was going to happen here too *scoffs*. I'm sure people who know the aluta drill and participated in their time, live in the same area I reside, but don't even have the guts to do so now and I wonder why. Is it 'Bystanders effect' or what?

They returned our electricity and I'm glad I don't have to smile at meruwa (for now) because I want water.

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But should we actually keep silent for the way we are being treated by NEPA?

Have You Seen ASA's New Video?

Last night I was informed of Asa's video release for one more song in her sophomore album 'Beautiful Imperfection' .

The release of the new and official video for the song 'The Way I Feel' on Youtube is not a day old yet and has had over eight thousand views already.

You can take a look at the video and share what you feel about it. As in the interpretation of the whole song, lyrics, the theme and if you like it.

Then I stumbled on the live performance and I'm thinking you have to see it too.

Don't forget to post your thotstoshare on these two pieces.

One Love,
Mjady.

OPINIONS: Tonto's Publicity Strategy

I don't have a thing for Nigerian typecast actors/actresses that are just overrated. But...

About a month ago when the release of Tonto Dike's debut single was an opportunity for Nigerians to flex their creative comic abilities, my brother and I argued objectively on the possibility of it being a publicity strategy.

May be we were right or what do you think?

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Kini Big Deal? Why Do You Scream TGIF?

As I gradually got conscious from sleep this morning, I was thinking it was Saturday so I had the license to sleep a little more. Then I remembered it was Friday and mumbled a 'Thank God its Friday' that sounded like 'I wish it was Saturday'. What I really wanted was the ending of Friday not the beginning.

When I got to the office I overheard one of my colleagues ask if today was Thursday, when she heard that it was Friday instead, she screamed excitingly, 'Thank God its Friday'. I could really understand because Thursday is the most hectic day for us at the company.

I wondered why working class people always screamed TGIF. I understood why when I was in Secondary school. Though Fridays during my University days didn't make any difference for me, I always judged from the other side of being employed in 8-5 jobs that screaming TGIF meant an unfulfilled life on the job.

I guess I'm about to eat my words (No! thots), cause I'm sure I'm not ready to admit that I'm beginning to look like a 'butterfly in a wheel' when I don't feel like getting up from the bed on Monday mornings.

:^) I'm wondering why because I've never screamed TGIF with excitement. I wonder what makes Fridays special. I know the weekend that starts with Friday means time unwind, but I just wonder why the thrill about unwinding.

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TGIF! and I plan to rock this Friday till Monday.

But I'm not sure I know how that 's going to happen.
How do you plan to spend the weekend?
Where do you intend to go to have great fun?
Maybe I could take a cue from you.

Please don't include laundry or house chores o. LOL!