Dear Reader, Your Turn To Give Advice.

"Okay bye dear" She got off the phone

Is that 'new boyfriend' or 'old boyfriend'? I asked

"Old boyfriend', why?"

"You didn't sound like he's old boyfriend" I retorted. Of course I knew he was 'old boyfriend', but if she didn't tell you they had broken up, you wouldn't know.

"I don't understand, we're still friends, are you saying we should not talk?"

"I'm not saying that, but I'm just wondering how you are going to move on from a relationship that has ended over six months ago. How do you intend to get into another relationship, if you are still hanging on to this one that has ended?"

"What if we get back together?"

"Really? Like seriously?..." Didn't know what next to say.

Must we ladies be like this sometimes? Abeg! Share your thoughts

Is this lady disillusioned?

Retro-Posts : ThotsToShare's Walk Down Memory lane

Don't you just love the sight in this picture?

Heavenly right?

Courtesy LifeHouseDesign

As the year draws to its end, I thought to do something, re post all my posts from the beginning of this site.

To walk down memory lane of this blog site.

To show you, who did not start reading this blog site from the beginning, the posts that have been written in the past.

To reflect on where I am coming from and how I have grown from there to here (You bet, I've grown).

So you're free to post your thotstoshare about each post, well I've already posted two for you today  to enjoy and comment.

You can laugh, cry and ramble with me on this journey down memory lane.

Thank You for coming here...

Love Ya, *Mwah!*
Mjady

SOS: I Need Your Advice

In the space of sunrise and sunset feelings could change from high and butterflies in my tummy, to low and with a broken heart.

It seems every time I try to give love a shot it keeps backfiring.

What's the bone of contention?

He seemed really interested in me, nice, and we got talking.

And every bit of detail he told me about himself did not turn me off.

Till I became his friend on Facebook and I saw the pictures on his timeline...

Oh no! I can't be compatible with that kind of lifestyle, things that look like porn, he drinks and so on...

Are you sure you're not being judgmental? I guess he was being open with himself, not hiding his lifestyle from something as public as social media.

Am I?

I was beginning to like him!

But there are somethings that would not go down well with me.

As confused as I feel right now, knowing that I like him already

You could say I'm not sure of what I want...but I'm really sure of what I DON'T want.

You seem angry too. So why do you have a broken heart?

I don't know... the way I was knowing and liking him, it just seemed very disappointing that he was not all that I was thinking he was or should I say he's not what I was expecting him to be.

I feel terrible liking someone who I think I can't have a healthy relationship with because I'm not cool with his lifestyle.

It seems like I should know what to do, but really what should I do?

She mops the tears welled up in her eyes with a white handkerchief she kept handy.

Imagine you are the person sitting across this woman telling you what she's going through what would you tell her?

FAITH: LAW OR DOGMA?

"Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later."

Have you ever reached that point that you feel a step further would break you? Oh! You've heard so many messages for comfort in time of despair. But really this is true.

Let me divert a little. The laws in Chemistry are very meticulous, you have to be precise with them, anything goes wrong the whole thing goes wrong. I think I have witnesses from people who were in chemistry labs in secondary school, doing things that didn't so much make sense to them and they could not apply to their everyday lives.

One thing I've understood lately is 'Faith is a law'. A law that defies present circumstantial reality, that brings things into existence before they are created, it is the creative force God placed in us that must be absolutely functional at all times till the creation is physically manifested.

Hmmn!

If I'm in an environmental situation of lack, what is faith?

Generating thoughts, imagery, confessions and actions of supply till I see the supply which is my genuine and preferred reality. To generate thoughts, imagery, confessions and actions of anything contrary spoils the process of creation by altering it or slowing it down.

"And it is impossible to please God without faith"

God placed himself in us by giving us his nature, he gave us the power to create and placed it in our will to faith. He created by faith and also encrypted our DNA with the ability to do the same.

"By faith we understand that the entire universe was formed at God's command , that what we now see did not come from anything that can be seen"

Man who enjoys naming things, and has named this all kinds of things too, including the 'law of attraction'.

As we have God's life in us, we can't survive without faith. It is the only life line and life jacket we have to keep walking on water.

This is not dogma, this is not one of those religious jargon. THIS IS FAITH AND IT IS A LAW.

"Faith is SUBSTANCE of things hoped for; the EVIDENCE of things not seen"

It starts with you thinking it possible to have faith.

Taking Rubbish

"What rubbish! I can't take that!"

Sounds familiar to you? We humans most times are so fast to show off and let everyone know what they can or can not take. Is that a bad thing? Well, not absolutely. We often place ourselves on high pedestal and try to send messages to our people environment that we are not to be treated badly even by people with high social status.This seems like the most natural reaction to any ill treatment we get from interacting with others, but I do not agree to it totally. We are fast to show our prowess to prove our worth, to compensate our self esteem, and put up defense when we sense the slightest form of threat to it.

There's something I learnt somewhere about Self control. Picture a trained stallion, a horse with great racing prowess, it knows and obeys it owner, it understands the commands, prompts and inhibitions it gets from its rider and obeys them. So when it is told to stop, run fast or trot it obeys; not because it doesn't have the ability to race and charge how it likes but its strength lies in being able to subject its will to the one who rides it.

My mentor said something "The more rubbish you take the higher you go". It really got me thinking about the true meaning of humility since then. God elevates those who are lowly and he despises the haughty. This is emphasized in God's word and He acknowledges the humble, entrusting with them great responsibility. For example David (I really like his example), Saul (Whether you think so or not humility was one of the things that made him Israel's first king), Moses, Abraham, the list goes on. The ultimate example is Jesus Christ who knew who He was and His capabilities but subjected Himself to the will and pleasure of He who sent Him, and willingly laid down his life for the world even though it was not easy.

So before you start raining fire and brimstone for the rubbish you can't take, take it slow and give the right response.

You do have thostoshare about this, please feel free to do so. God bless.

Keep at it.

The little child looked at his father's legs as he struggle to keep pace with him as they both took a stroll down the street at the cool of the day. His father smiled observing his four year old try to fit in his shoes. He stopped and his son stopped too looking to him to say something to justify why they were stopping.
"You want to stretch your leg as long as I can?" He asked.

His son nodded with saucer sized eyes
"Just keep eating the food, vegetables and fruits your mum gives you to eat everyday"
"Everyday?" He must have thought that to be a lot of work
"Yes, Just keep doing that everyday and you'd keep stretching your legs a little more than you do now. And son, this applies to the things that you see as beyond you"
The four year old nodded like he wasn't sure he understood what his father was saying, but he was taking it in any way.

So it is with every goal we set on paper or even in our imaginations and the person we want to be. We may get really discouraged about the actualization of our goals but even at the moment of our discouragement we are not to STOP, but keep at it. I know you've probably heard this before and not just once, but persistence at the right thing can not be over flogged.

So here it is again. I meditated on this scripture and ThotToShare with you.

Romans 12 :5-9

Having A Bad Day? Try This.

I tried my hands on something today, I resumed at work today and about thirty minutes after, one of my bosses said something that was not a good report of my performance so far at this new job. I knew this report wasn’t going to positively influence my performance today and I didn’t want that to happen. So what did I do?

At first I tried fighting the emotions I was beginning to have on the low side, I looked for mantras to put me back on track, then tried commanding my thoughts to go the positive direction but it just seemed like everything I did to divert my thoughts to the positive was just aggravating its present state.

Then it began ringing that I should try listening to music. I was wise not to start with fast music or something in the high. Instead, I started with the state I was in and music that would heal that state was a solemn, reflective but not depressive music. It identified with the state of my mind and eased out the tension. I really understand that soothing effect of music now.

Since there was a time of great mental receptiveness (called a psychological moment), this was an opportunity to take my mind to the desired state. The next thing I did was to switch to the kind of music that would make me really smile. It works every time and it worked this time again.

So here’s a link to the video, I think you should take a look and tell me if you smiled at any part of the song.

PS: I’m not a Buddhist and I’m not psychic.

Personal Biases - MTN Project Fame

It was just Marvelous and Ayo left holding hands, seeing their tensed faces and imagining what would be going on in their heads prior the announcement of the winner was exciting. So dear Ayo won and I'm one of the bloggers blogging about it.

This is the first event I'm blogging about and due to logistic reasons I get to post this three after the event. I'm going in the spirit of 'better late than never'. I'm going to be reporting the show with biases that I'd express 'simple and short'.

#1- I wanted Adetoun to be the ultimate winner, but I'm glad she didn't. Being the winner is not always everything and may not pay for everyone. For instance Timi and Omawunmi of West African Idols.

#2- I wanted Musulyn to win too. She was strong, going through adaptation and challenged by unfamiliar grounds, she exhibited positive change. And I wanted a non-Nigerian to win for once.

#3- I suggest that better innovative delegation should be employed by the MTN Project Fame West Africa. All participating countries should be equally represented, let them have a share of winning. MTNPFWA is not only for Nigeria.

#4- I was really wondering why Praise Adejo (Praiz), a quality product from MTNPFWA debut season (the same season that produced Iyanya who made a hit after almost 5 years) was not invited to perform at either the penultimate performance called 'Collaboration Night' or at the Grand Finale.

#5- I'm glad Ayo won anyway, he has the Afrobeat flavor and was the only one ladies were waiting for to marry them after the reality show ends (Reference to the last Google Plus hangout they had). There's just something about him that makes the ladies want to take him home to daddy.

That's my piece


Your biases are welcome, post them in the comment box. Thanks

I Set Sail

All my life I’ve been taught to guard my life from living so I don’t get hurt. I’ve learnt this from my physical, religious, psychological and social environs. But what can you do to stop life from happening except die. I’ve been hurt in all these aspects I’ve been taught to be careful and out of over zealousness gotten myself confused and ended up not learning the right things instead or not even learning a thing at all.

Hurt, pain, loss, are also things that make the world go round and make us say that ‘Life is beautiful’. Beautiful to me means the good, the bad, and the ugly. Beautiful is not just perfect. That is left for the new incorruptible body and life we would have when we see Jesus, when we get to heaven, where they would be no sorrow, fear, or tear. In this life God doesn’t promise me no tears and no fears. He promises me a life of unquestionable victory over them because he’s on my side, with me, has won the battle I should ever fight, and gives me the right to BASK IN HIS GLORY with confidence hereby making me more than a conqueror. Isaiah 43 (the whole chapter)

So I resolve to living. Putting up guard and fortifying walls didn’t stop those who taught me (to do same) from being hurt themselves. In fact they got hurt and more hurt because they found it hard to let go and found false solace in refortifying their walls. Their theories of security have failed them. I do not guard my heart from breaking; I’ve put it in God’s hands.

So I resolve to live and let live. I’m going to be childlike without being childish. I’m going to be free and without a care in the world. I’m going to throw caution to the wind. I’m going to relish every moment God gives me the opportunity to. I’m going to cherish everyone God blesses me with to love. I’m going to let go of people and things that have served their time. And I’m going to learn life as it comes taking a step at a time like a baby learning to walk. I’m not going to jump because ‘Life is a process’ and jumping through it would mean falling. I’m going to walk on a rope if I have to. I’m THROWING all my eggs into one basket. I’m going to trust God on this one. Proverbs 3:5-8. I lose my life and myself. John 12:25-26 I’m not afraid anymore.

Love. Learn. Live

If I set sail, I know God would send the wind.

A Phone Conversation...

I got a call from one of my dear friends yesterday, network providers are more  liberal these days and have been giving freebies that we have thought could only happen in some dreams, but there we were conversing on the benefit of free call credit in plenty. 

We are friends who keep in touch so it was not catching up on old times, we talked extensively till we began talking about our dreams, goals and the fears we had. What we expected to have happened and the milestones we hope to reach in the nearest future and it seemed like it’s not happening any soon. How we try to make things work and they just don’t, and so on.

Then it was one of those moments of saying what I didn’t cram, copy, or rehearse to say, but it’s making a lot of sense to the listener and in fact dissolving fears and doubt. What are such moments called? :-?

Some people have the absolute ideology that ‘life is deliberate’ and some that ‘life is predestined’. Which one do you hold? And why? Then I tell you what I told my friend.

I believe both, because all our live events can’t be attributed to just one of these ideologies. I live life in preparation and in predestination. I’m going to live in the moment and live in tomorrow. So when the opportunities come I grab them because I’m prepared to. When it does not come I’d still live.

Contrary to humanistic propositions we can’t always control what happens to us. We do have choices, but not everything in our lives would answer to them. So what happens when we are being deliberate about life and walking every walk by faith and our answers are not anywhere around the corner?

So when it seems like you were so sure by now that God would have reached down and wiped your tears away, stepped in saved the day and it’s not looking like it. Then you can’t even hear his voice through the thunder, do something, praise him in the storm and ask for his mercies that are new every morning to prevail.