REALITY CHECK #1: COMPETENCE

My imaginary self at a job interview thinks it’s a privilege if anyone has me working for them. You know, I’m a Girl Of All Talents, I’ve got a lot of potential, I can be the best and in fact I want to be the greatest at what I do. Who doesn’t want to be? Or isn’t somewhat egocentric about what they do?

Most times employers want to recruit, even if it’s you who wants to recruit, amidst all the requirements on the CV, you would want someone who can do the job well measuring against a standard, especially ability acquired through experience or training.

I saw the definition of competence lately and I really had to ask myself if I was competent and at what and what can I perform well measured against a standard and is my ability acquired through experience or sound training. I didn’t think of this reality check just to write a piece on work lifestyle or attitude to work, but that’s an easy way to communicate the message.

What does competence really mean? For a few seconds ditch believe in yourself mantra. Can you take the inconsistencies, ineffectiveness, inadequacies, cheesy excuses, and the problems you create at your job or business from someone else? If you were going to recruit someone to assist you with your workload I’m sure it’s someone who is more than up to the task you would want.

Are you in denial? You don’t think you are incompetent, well it’s your boss, some customers and colleagues that have the problem, and they are simply haters. I hope so. Try answering

What can you do really well and almost without thinking much about the task?

Would you be able to produce the desired results with a dash of excellence in the task?

John C Maxwell said “If you think you can do something that’s confidence, if you can do it that’s competence”

Knowing the truth about yourself and your inadequacies would you employ you for that job or hire you for that service you render if you were the employer or client and be glad you did?

We may have formed the habits of not developing ourselves and deceiving people about our competence, we set traps with false confidence just that we get what we want to eat from them…

Are we now predators?

40 DAYS LEFT : REALITY CHECK SERIES

Hello there! It's been a while and I've been MIA is cliched among bloggers nowadays I'm wondering what going on in the blogging community. Well, the year is gradually closing as we have just 40 days left in it. I thought to do something that would keep us introspecting and telling ourselves the truth about some things.

So it's going to be posts on having a reality check on issues in our lives. A forty day journey I'm hoping everyone can gain from. Tell someone about it, share your thoughts as in comments, and if you have a reality check issue you would love featured here just email me adeyinkaadefemi@gmail.com
If you are going to be making new year resolutions next year, you had better be doing so on a good note you know what I'm saying.

Watch this space.

Poem : BE LONG

We long for connectivity
Yet we refuse to admit to it
We betray our masks of bravery
When we cry underneath
What do we lose?
Our well groomed adulthood?
What do we gain?
In the end we lose the pain.
It comes through vulnerability
Not afraid to be ashamed or admit
Not afraid to be naked or cry
Not afraid to be fall or be a child.
What we find instead
Are other children who want to be our friend.

Viktor Frankl: Why to believe in others, Best Memory Vitamins

Hello there! I didn't upload any write up here through out last week because I was busy trying to put a seminar together for yesterday. It's come and gone and was a huge success (More on that loading). Today, I just have a little something I think you should start your week with. It's another video to inspire from someone with whom I never came in contact physically, but has better shaped my school of thought in knowing the 'meaning of life'. If you still don't know him please google Viktor Frankl. After all he went through I can say he was full of life. This less than five minutes video featuring this man teaches you how to evaluate people. Watch. Learn. Enjoy while I've done that and want to better Live. Learn. Love Have A Great Week Ahead.

Failing All the Way to Success: Jason Njoku at TEDxEuston

Someone actually made a comment saying every Nigerian should watch this video and consume it, so I finally decided to share with you here. Apart from that this speech by the owner of IROKOtv breaks every wall of traditions that may have been erected in the mind. I found similar experiences I could reckon with, learned being real would make the world unable to recover from my breakthrough and some other things. Please post comments on this blog on what you learnt from Jason Njoku's speech. Go ahead and enjoy it!

The Gift of Blindness: Cobhams Asuquo at TEDxEuston

The last time my brother visited, I kinda found myself confessing some stuff I had taken from his laptop. He ignored the obvious and asked me if I had seen Cobhams talk at TEDxEuston, I hadn't and I had it in mind to do so. I finally did and I must confess it's something I would like to listen to and watch every day and I think everyone else should. He delivers on 3 strong philosophies that I think would help you live a more purposeful life in careless abandon. Enjoy!

Morning Charge To My Fellow White Fowls (2)

...Continued from the prequel. To explain the concept of Destiny, I decided to throw in a story someone had told me and I still don't remember who did, I added some salt to the story sha . So here it goes 

"Are you of the ideology that destiny is an occurrence that cannot be altered or of the ideology that destiny can be lived out?

I’d tell a short story of two young men *Ebuka and *Emeka in a village far far away. One day, the Seer approached *Ebuka and *Emeka as they worked in neighbouring farms. The Seer called the both of them to him saying he had something important to tell them, they yielded and he prophesied that in the near future Ebuka would be a ruler of the people and Emeka would become his servant.

Ebuka and Emeka parted ways that day with different countenances. Months after Ebuka began basking in the future glory, started riotous living, demanded he be treated as king, he was pleased at being served rather than serving, because he was sure to be king in years to come.

Emeka had left for a village not too far away and started tilling the abandoned farms that belonged to his family. It was his way of putting the unpleasant prophecy behind him. He worked twice the size of the big farms in that village built a store room for his harvest, sold some, preserved seeds for the next seasons and still had much more to store. He engaged the help of his younger relatives to help out with the farming and sharing some of the harvest with elder family members that equally could have been in charge of the farms he worked on.

Over ten years after, there was a great famine that overwhelmed all the villages. But there was just one village that had food and in fact just one farm supplied food. Everyone migrated to that village so as not to starve to death, they were ready to pay any price to get food. They heard the owner of the farm was not charging much for the supply but asked for their labour on the farm so as to keep the harvest coming from the farm yet to be consumed by the famine, he believed if his farming practices were replicated the land would keep yielding. They heard about his wise farming practices that had made him untouched in the famine and how he regarded people. 

All the people thought on these things and decided to make the farm owner their ruler for he had a heart of service and wisdom. So they enthroned him ruler of all and gave him their farm lands. He decreed that every citizen of his kingdom enrolled in the King's service and work on the farms in exchange for the food they needed. 

One day, he went to supervise the progress of his farms and registrations still going on and on one of the queues he noticed a familiar face though stricken with hunger and wretched in appearance, the familiar face seemed to recognize him too. The king approached this familiar face who paid obeisance as the king moved closer, having a closer look the King mustered "Ebuka" in disbelief. The servant replied "Is this you, Emeka, My King?"

At that moment they both recalled the seer and his prophecy.

Was the seer's prophecy wrong?

As the motto of NYSC says 'Service and Humilty'. This is the route to fulfillment of destiny

I'd leave you with this quote

'I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who would be really happy are those who would have sought and found how to serve' - Albert Schweitzer"

Then those in the studio told me that I didn't speak up and weren't sure I was heard. Well, I blamed it on 'my croaky, early morning, just rising from bed, before the 'morning parade' bugle voice' :)

"How We Lost Our Capacity to Innovate " : Okechukwu Ofili at TEDxYouth@M...

We sure do have great minds in Nigeria, one of which is Okechukwu Ofili's. He speaks on TEDx at Maitaima. I've watched and listened and do not think it wise not to tell anyone who cares to do the same. I would not say much this time, but this is straight talk for Nigeria to light up. Yes! Party this weekend but don't lose essence while at it. Watch the video and be inspired.

Morning Charge To My Fellow White Fowls (1)

Don't question me with your facial expression especially your eyebrows just yet, I'm just being a bit coy here and only those who understand the coded language would be more interested.

I never posted anything about my NYSC camp experience early this year, it happened on a location I had never been to and I'm sure none of my ancestors have ever been to - If anyone guesses the town right I would surely give the person a gift and announce on this blog- The  technology I took with me didn't favor me and I guess the environmental conditions also made me forget entirely about this blog (Really! I forgot about Thotstoshare?! *smh*). I didn't have a strategic plan to have fun but I did all the way. I joined the Orientation Broadcasting Service and they were my family, man! A big shout out to OBS crew. Yeah, yeah back to business. I was asked to take a brief morning charge on air by my head of programs department and this was what I prepared. With my croaky, early morning, just rising from bed, before the 'morning parade' bugle voice I read thus:

"The topic for today's morning charge is 'Destiny' read by Adeyinka Adefemi. Destiny is a predetermined course of events. It is a concept based on the belief that there is a fixed natural order to cosmos. Destiny is used with regard to the finality of events as they have worked themselves out. Destiny is conceived as a predetermined future whether in general or of an individual"

That was how I was giving all kinds of definitions for destiny to white fowls who were trying to steal a little more sleep before the soldiers come to shout us out to the parade ground that morning. Unless you can stand a really long post.


To be continued...

MIDWEEK LUV: Nosa - Why You Love Me

Apart from the fact that this video was placed on Youtube on my mother's birthday, I'm loving the lyrics, message and style of the song. I'm also loving Nosa for his persevering personality that cannot be ignored. Oops! I just mentioned why I love 'Why You Love me'. You should listen and tell if and why you love Nosa's-Why You Love me, he really makes good soul with pidgin, he makes it sound like a really romantic language. MJADY!! Enough of the slips let these people enjoy the song abeg! Sorry bout all that guys, please enjoy!


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